So Many Choices, So Little Time
“I’m sorry, Mam, but how many choices did you just say I have?” Every girl dreams about her wedding day and already knows what she wants her wedding dress and veil to look like. Brides are filled with what seems like an endless amount of lengths and styles to decide on when choosing a veil for their big day! Do you want a blusher? Do you want shoulder length? Do you want elbow length, waist length, fingertip length, ankle length, chapel length, cathedral length? Do you want it to bustle? Do you want a design, lace trim, beaded trim, pencil trim, no trim? Do you want scalloped edges, straight edges, cut edges, raw edges? The possibilities are endless! I have to say, stick to your guns! If you have the perfect veil you have been dreaming of, there are so MANY ways to make it happen!
Cathedral Wedding Veils DO Bustle!
“I’m sorry, Mam, did you just say you’ve never heard of a cathedral wedding veil that bustles? I KNEW I wanted a cathedral length veil. I also KNEW I wanted some sort of trim on the edges, either lace or beads. And I also KNEW I wanted that veil to bustle because I planned on keeping it on ALL night (I was the bride after all!)! I was not going to settle.
When I first started looking at wedding veils, I am not kidding when I say that every store, boutique, and even online shop owners told me that a cathedral veil that bustles does not exist. Seriously, they looked at me like I was completely nuts! I was told time and time again that if I plan to have a cathedral veil on my wedding day, I better plan to take it off for the reception. When they knew I was serious about wanting it to bustle, I got a, “Well, I guess we could add a button, but we can’t guarantee it won’t rip.” Now, I should’ve prefaced this by saying that my best friend got married a few years earlier, and guess what? She wore a cathedral veil! She wore it at her reception! And, it did, in fact, bustle!
If you are told the same thing, check out my post on how to bustle a cathedral wedding veil in 5 minutes!
Wedding Veils Can Cost As Much as Your Dress.
“I’m! Sorry! Mam! Did you just say my dream veil is going to cost as much as my dress?” I went to numerous bridal shops to try on veils. I gave them the exact same credentials every time, “I would like a cathedral veil with trim, either lace or beading.” They were all just beautiful, but every time I asked for the price, it was somewhere between $1000-$1200! Holy cow! I spent about $1200 on my dress, and I paid about $300 extra to have length added to the train. That was totally worth it to me, but the veil prices were frustrating me. I could not believe how much the price of a veil went up just for getting a cathedral! I mean, $300 to add extra length to my beautiful lace train, but if I wanted to make a veil into a cathedral is was an extra $700 or so? That just didn’t make sense to me, and I couldn’t justify the money. That didn’t mean I wasn’t going to get the veil I always wanted.
Let’s Do This, Brides!
“I’m so sorry, mam. I’m going to do this myself.” I shopped online like a crazy person. I googled, and googled, and googled. I had many conversations with people who sold custom veils online. My plan was to buy a “cheap” cathedral veil and add the trim on myself. When I say a “cheap” cathedral veil, I mean $500-$700. I could, however, get a cathedral veil that wasn’t made out of the “good” material for $100-$250. In my mind I’m thinking, “The material can’t matter that much. Will anyone even know the difference if I didn’t tell them?” Anytime I go to make a purchase, I always tell the people helping me, “I’m a thinker. You are not going to get me to buy this without sleeping on it.”
God bless my best friend, who, when I told her my plan, offered for me to use her veil. She said it had been sitting in her closet for years, and I could do whatever I wanted to it. But, if you don’t have this option, I’m sure there is someone in your family who can make you one. There are LOTS of youtube videos on it, and it really didn’t look that hard. How gorgeous is the cathedral wedding veil my bestie gave me?
Picking A Trim
It is So EXTREMELY important that if you pick a trim that is NOT heavy. You don’t want your veil weighing your head down. I found this beautiful trim on Etsy and emailed the shop owner right away to make sure it was light enough to put on my veil.
My plan was to sew it, but I had no idea how to sew. I stumbled across this fabric glue at Joann Fabrics. It is permanent, you can dry clean the garment after, and it will dry clear! I tested a small area and gave it a shot! After testing a small area, I totally had nothing to lose!
Tips & Tricks
I quickly learned these tricks to make the process easier:
- Do the gluing over a glass surface so that no chemicals react with the glue and discolor the veil. I used a glass cutting board. Shout out to my girlfriend for telling me that!
- The glue does not dry fast. I had to use pins to keep the trim in place until it dried.
- Have a damp cloth on hand to quickly wipe away any glue that may get on a part of the veil that it shouldn’t.
- If you aren’t going to use the trim all the way around, have a plan, and an Exacto knife.
I did quickly realize that if I put the trim all the way around, it would be too heavy for my head. I do have a sensitive head, so I wanted to make sure I was comfortable. I came up with a plan to stop the trim just below the loops to place my fingers through.
Using an Exacto knife, I cut the trim longer than where it needed to stop. This is important because some of the beads came off. I STILL glued the back of the trim on. This is because I had to finish the design. I found some loose Swarovski crystals at Hobby Lobby, and glued a pattern where I wanted to finish off the trim.
- Wedding Veil
- Trim (Make sure it’s not too heavy)
- Aleene’s Fabric Fusion Adhesive
- Glass Surface or Glass Cutting Board
- Damp Cloth
- Crystals (if you choose to NOT go all the way around the veil)
- Exacto Knife
-Be sure to test a small inconspicuous area first!
-Lay out the wedding veil with the area you are beginning with on the glass surface. Beginning at the very top of one side, lightly add the adhesive on the outermost edge. Carefully line the trim so that it just covers the very edge of the veil. You don’t want to glue it to the sheer part. As you can see in the picture below, my trim was wider than the thin line on the lining of my veil, but I ONLY glued to the lining.
-Carefully push the pins through the trim and the veil to keep the trim in place while the adhesive dries. Wipe away any glue spots with the damp cloth.
-If you are stopping your trim at some point, pick a spot that is easy to measure out. I chose the finger loops. Cut the trim longer that what you need because if it’s beaded, some of the beads are going to come off the thread. Put a dab of glue on the thread, directly under the last bead to make sure no more beads come off. Glue your end stones onto the backing of where the beads fell off.
-Do the exact same to the other side making sure that they are even! Tuck-in and glue any loose threads! Dream veil, accomplished! And it was absolutely perfect!
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If you want to learn how to bustle your cathedral wedding veil, check out my post on how it can be done in about 5 minutes!